I have been thinking a lot about friendships lately. I am blessed to have two women in my life whom I would consider really good frirends. They both love the Word of God; they desire to live their lives for Christ, and they desire to see the same for me. They are both busy women who still manage to make time for me, and I try to make a priority to spend time with them. We study the Word together; that makes for strong friendships. There are two other women whom I've been getting to know over the past number of months, and I foresee a long and blessed friendship with them, too.
But not all friendships run smoothly; sad to say, it happens even within the Body of Christ. There are those which have struggle and difficulty; sometimes, they are rather one-sided; there may be disagreement. I have had my share of those, and continue to have them.
I try to be a good friend, but I'm sure I fall short in many ways. I sometimes scratch my head, trying to figure out what I can do better at to make my friendships better. Sometimes, answers come, and sometimes, I never know, and sadly, those friendships cool and friends become acquaintences. I wish it was otherwise.
I guess the bottom line is that we must remember that our friendships within the Body of Christ are different than the run of the mill friendships. My friends are part of the body; they are a part of me. Nurturing them means nurturing myself, and the entire body as well. I'm trying to remember that as I go along. It took me a long time to even consider being friends with women, because as a teenage girl, I didn't have positive experiences, and it was not until I was about 25 that I put much effort into it. The two women I'm closest to have taught me a lot about being a good friend because they are good friends to me. It seems to me that we should nurture these relationships within the body of Christ because it is good for the body. I have learned a lot about nurturing friendships from my two friends.
As I grow older and my kids become more and more independent, I think it's a good idea for me to foster female frindships. Not that I want to "replace" my children or husband, but I have to remember that parenting will change, and I don't want to find myself unable to cope with changes down the road. Of course, I have the comfort of the Lord, but I also recognize that I don't live in a vacuum, and part of my life of faith is an outward one, whether it is teaching or just ministering to a friend in some way.
A few weeks ago, my son wanted to me to do something for him, but I was unable to because I was away for the weekend with my friend at a bible conference. He seemed rather put out. My daughter said to him sarcastically, "Oh shame on her for having her own life!" I had to laugh at that.
Sometimes, I am busy, and nurturing my friendships is work. But it's work worth making the time for. Anytime I work at thinking outside of myself is time well spent.