Here is a repeat of something I wrote a couple of years ago (in blog years, that's a lifetime), slightly edited, that is still very true.
My husband is a simple man, but he's not a simpleton. His advice is often very simple, and to an over-analytical woman like me, occasionally has sounds a little too simple. It can't be that easy; we must discuss it more; we must understand it more; we must find other ways to look at it.
I remember an occasion many years ago when we had a conflict about something and I was quite upset over the whole matter, mostly at our inability to find consensus. Being the over reactor I am, I concluded that we must need professional help. My husband's answer? We just need to forgive each other, and treat each other as we would want to be treated, consider the other more esteemed, and obey Christ in our marriage.
Can it be that simple? Isn't there more? Don't we need some kind of analysis from an expert to point out every jot and tittle of weakness? Isn't there a book we need to consult before we can even begin to solve things?
Yes, there is something more: the "something more" needed is to just do it. To obey. No, it isn't easy. It means swallowing my pride. That's often a big bite to swallow.
When I look back, I think there is been too many times when I expended more energy than was necessary looking for the perfect answer rather than taking the more simple approach. Maybe he was on to something. Maybe I should have spent more time reading this:
Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself bybecoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.(Phil 2:3-9)